10 Effective Ways To Stop Obsessing And Ruminating

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Have you ever been wronged by someone, seemingly without rhyme or reason? Perhaps the outcome of a situation did not turn out as expected. Perhaps your daily life is filled with stressful situations, causing you to feel continuous anxiety. Depending upon your disposition, these events can cause you to obsess and ruminate.

I have had my fair share of personal issues in the past, which I had to work through. Along the way, I picked up many effective lessons on how to handle ruminating. Before we get to the list, lets look at some facts about ruminating.

Facts About Ruminating

Reasons Why We Ruminate

  • A feeling of low self-worth: You may find yourself at fault, or inadequate in various ways, as explanation for why certain events have unfolded in your life.
  • Depression or Anxiety: A negative mindset, from event after event, trains the brain into a trend, or belief system, centered around hopelessness. Ones attitude and perspective has much to do with alleviating these causes. However, some people develop neurological disorders, which can only begin to be addressed by psychopharmacology. If you believe your obsessive, ruminating behavior to be serious and possibly linked to mental illness, I urge you to please consult with a qualified therapist.
  • Being consumed by what other people think: This cause is slightly rooted in a sense of low self-worth. The ego is a hungry beast, and requires validation to assert itself. Even if you believe you do not have a big ego, heavy ruminating would suggest otherwise. This is your ego screaming itself back into power and control.
  • Personal development: Sad to say, but some of the reason people have difficulty processing a negative event is due to maturity. The lessons people learn in the course of their lives vary greatly, and as a result, so does their maturity level. This aspect directly ties into how we evaluate our own self-worth, which interacts with being consumed by what we think people are thinking about us. If this starts at an early age, it can prove quite difficult to change such an old pattern, but it is possible.

For more on why we ruminate, check out this other article.

Types of Ruminating

In my research, I found these types of ruminating to be a pretty good idea of how this issue surrounds our psyche.

  • State Rumination: Thinking about the consequences and associating ones self with the failure.
  • Action Rumination: This is mainly to do with continuously pondering how events could have been corrected to achieve a goal. 
  • Task-irrelevant Rumination: Has to do with blame to distract from the failure; choosing to focus on the event or a certain person as the cause.

Ways To Stop Ruminating

Now that we have discussed the reasons why, and what we ruminate about, let’s discuss how to fix ourselves. Keep in mind, where all of these can help alleviate obsessing over something temporarily, it is through continuous practice and effort, which can bring about a more permanent change. We must learn to water the wholesome and productive seeds within us, and allow the negatives seeds to regress, for change to be possible and to take hold within.

1. Take your mind off of the person and/or event.

Redirecting your mind to something else, is an excellent way to train your mind away from the cycle of ruminating. If you know how to meditate, this is also a Continue reading “10 Effective Ways To Stop Obsessing And Ruminating”

Tissue & Bones: How To Maximize Healing

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If you have ever had a deep cut, or broken bone, you probably asked the doctor if there is a supplement you can take to speed up the healing process.  9 times out of 10, the doctor probably replied by saying supplements are pointless, because the body heals at its own pace.  This is true, however, it is only half the story.

Some Facts About Bone & Tissue Healing

The natural healing process would be at its highest point when and if an individual grew up completely healthy in mind, body, sleeping habits, spirit, and zero environmental toxicity exposure. In todays day and age, it is simply impossible to grow up with these conditions. The only way to maximize your healing potential is to get as close as you can to these conditions.  The following is a list these conditions and what is meant by each of them:

  • Mind Health: Eating food that contributes to healthy brain tissue and neurological functioning. Also, getting an adequate amount of sleep, and minimizing emotionally stressful reactions to situations. Reactions which can result in physiological stress. Additionally, challenging the brain with both intellectual learning, imagination, and reaction/dexterity/agility (physical) practices to continue the physio/neurological development and maintenance.
  • Body Health: Eating a well balanced diet to both facilitate a healthy gastrointestinal environment, and provide the appropriate elements to support nourished blood, organ, hair, bone, nail, and eye health. Avoiding inflammation by staying away from food and elements that you are allergic to. Also, regular resistance, cardiovascular, and flexibility training.
    • Mind/Body: Meditation and yoga help to facilitate the mind/body connection, and allows you to destress.
  • Sleeping Habits: Adhering to a normal Circadian sleep cycle, getting between 7-8 hours of sleep, and getting to sleep at a recurring time every night.
  • Spiritual/Emotional Health: Feeling a sense of interconnectedness to the life-forces around us, and recognizing interbeing. Also, not harboring ill will or prejudice towards anyone else.
  • Zero Environmental Toxicity: Clean air, water, and food (no additives, pesticides, or modifications). Physical contact with only natural, non-residue emitting substances.

Helps heal skin: Vitamins C, A, and iron. For more information click here.

Helps heal bone: Protein, Calcium, Magnesium, Zinc, Omega-3, and Vitamins D3, K, and C. For more information click here.   

Important Notes

On the topic of supplementation, ones intestines can only assimilate so much material at a time. If a person is deficient in the intake of the nutrients essential for bone and tissue regeneration, then supplementation can assist in getting those intake levels up to the maximum.

Relaxation and a sense of wellbeing contribute to the healing process. When someone is under stress, stress hormones flood the body, and slow healing. This goes for the negative emotional spectrum to include resentment, anger and hatred. Preventing the negative emotions entirely is also not healthy. Through mindfulness, these emotions can be recognized as they well up, and then can be processed accordingly.

Alternative Concepts

Energy Healing

You may have heard of people with the ability to heal with Chi or Reiki, or heal themselves through meditation. Where this may seem like science fiction for many, I have both seen and experienced first hand the effects of energy healing. This is the process of aligning and circulating universal energy (Qi or Chi) through your body to assist in the healing process. I do not understand the process completely, but I can attest that there is something to it, and worth checking out.

Regenerative Medicine

Another direction that has recently been discover is regenerative medicine with stem cells. You may have heard of the man who regenerated the entire end digit of one of his finger with a stem cell powder.  If you haven’t, check out this video here. Where this substance allows tissue to grow back into form, it doesn’t necessarily speed up the process. Still, it is a very interesting discovery and application.


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