Have you ever been wronged by someone, seemingly without rhyme or reason? Perhaps the outcome of a situation did not turn out as expected. Perhaps your daily life is filled with stressful situations, causing you to feel continuous anxiety. Depending upon your disposition, these events can cause you to obsess and ruminate.
I have had my fair share of personal issues in the past, which I had to work through. Along the way, I picked up many effective lessons on how to handle ruminating. Before we get to the list, lets look at some facts about ruminating.
Facts About Ruminating
Reasons Why We Ruminate
- A feeling of low self-worth: You may find yourself at fault, or inadequate in various ways, as explanation for why certain events have unfolded in your life.
- Depression or Anxiety: A negative mindset, from event after event, trains the brain into a trend, or belief system, centered around hopelessness. Ones attitude and perspective has much to do with alleviating these causes. However, some people develop neurological disorders, which can only begin to be addressed by psychopharmacology. If you believe your obsessive, ruminating behavior to be serious and possibly linked to mental illness, I urge you to please consult with a qualified therapist.
- Being consumed by what other people think: This cause is slightly rooted in a sense of low self-worth. The ego is a hungry beast, and requires validation to assert itself. Even if you believe you do not have a big ego, heavy ruminating would suggest otherwise. This is your ego screaming itself back into power and control.
- Personal development: Sad to say, but some of the reason people have difficulty processing a negative event is due to maturity. The lessons people learn in the course of their lives vary greatly, and as a result, so does their maturity level. This aspect directly ties into how we evaluate our own self-worth, which interacts with being consumed by what we think people are thinking about us. If this starts at an early age, it can prove quite difficult to change such an old pattern, but it is possible.
For more on why we ruminate, check out this other article.
Types of Ruminating
In my research, I found these types of ruminating to be a pretty good idea of how this issue surrounds our psyche.
- State Rumination: Thinking about the consequences and associating ones self with the failure.
- Action Rumination: This is mainly to do with continuously pondering how events could have been corrected to achieve a goal.
- Task-irrelevant Rumination: Has to do with blame to distract from the failure; choosing to focus on the event or a certain person as the cause.
Ways To Stop Ruminating
Now that we have discussed the reasons why, and what we ruminate about, let’s discuss how to fix ourselves. Keep in mind, where all of these can help alleviate obsessing over something temporarily, it is through continuous practice and effort, which can bring about a more permanent change. We must learn to water the wholesome and productive seeds within us, and allow the negatives seeds to regress, for change to be possible and to take hold within.
1. Take your mind off of the person and/or event.
Redirecting your mind to something else, is an excellent way to train your mind away from the cycle of ruminating. If you know how to meditate, this is also a Continue reading “10 Effective Ways To Stop Obsessing And Ruminating”